Is What You See Real? Change Your Perception, Change Your Life
Did you know that much of your reality only exists because you were taught it existed? And, if you were taught something else, your reality would be completely different. What if even the colors you see and the sounds you hear only exist for you because you were told that is what they are. If another person were taught something else, they would see different colors and hear different sounds than you.
The truth is, most of what you perceive is only perceivable to you because you learned to perceive it that way. A person from a different culture may see different colors, and definitely hears different sounds than you if they speak a different language. This is actually quite easy to prove. I will give you some proof later on, but first, think about the implications of this.
Experience follows perception. One person sees a movie and perceives it as a wonderful film. They have, therefore, a wonderful experience watching the film. Another person perceives the film as a piece of trash. What do you think their experience will be? You can find an infinite number of examples of this. Depending on how you perceive something, or someone, you will have a different experience.
If your experience depends on your perception, and what you perceive may or may not have anything to do with what really is, and has more to do with what you have been taught, how much does your conditioning affect your experience? And, if you want a better experience in life, what can you do?
Let me give you a real life example of how your condition controls even what colors you see. When I was a graduate student I was on a scholarship living in Japan studying cultural anthropology. For part-time work I translated manuals from Japanese into English. On one occasion I was translating a manual that said in Japanese, “To start the machine push the ‘aoi’ button.” Because I didn’t actually have the physical machine in front of me I didn’t know how to translate the Japanese word ‘aoi.’ The word ‘aoi’ in Japanese can mean both blue and green!
Therefore, a native Japanese speaker will point to a ‘blue’ sky and say it is ‘aoi’. They will then point to a ‘green’ leaf and say it is the same color – ‘aoi’. Blue and green are the same color to the Japanese. Why? Because that is how they were taught and everyone in Japanese Society agreed on the color.
Now, in modern Japan, due to mass media, they have more words for colors, many borrowed from English such as ‘buru’, from the English word blue, and so on. But, before mass media, Japanese saw colors differently than English speakers simply because that is the way the culture arbitrarily defined it. Blue and Green are next to each other on the color spectrum. And, there are an infinite number of ways the range of blue-green could be divided up and given words. But, as it turns out, English speakers divide the range into two basic colors, blue and green, and Japanese speakers call the same range, one color, ‘aoi’.
But what is most profound about this is that traditionally, the Japanese only saw one color, where English speaker see two basic colors.
The same is true for the sounds we here. If you are reading this, you probably speak English. English has many different sounds that don’t exist as distinctive features in other languages. Using Japanese as an example again, a Japanese does not hear the difference between an ‘l’ sound and an ‘r’ sound. To a Japanese ‘fried rice’ and ‘fried lice’ sound the same. So does ‘shit’ and ‘sheet’. There are many other examples, but the fact is that you only perceive what you hear the way you have been taught to perceive it. And, this may have nothing to do with reality or what is.
It should go without saying that there are many sounds that English speakers are unable to hear that speakers of other language do hear. How a culture divides up the infinite field of reality is mostly arbitrary and there is no right or wrong in it.
There are Direct Knowledge and Mystery Schools that have understood this from ancient times and with this knowledge set out to find out what was real. The Toltecs, for example, who were known as men and women of knowledge in Mesoamerica, looked at the totality of creation as an infinite number of strands of light. They knew that what human beings perceived was only a small portion of these infinite strands. They way humans perceived things was by what Toltecs called ‘assembling’ a group of strands into something perceptible.
This stands to reason when we look at the infinite number of light frequencies there are. The visible light spectrum is only a tiny range of all light frequencies. But, humans are not able to see with their eyes beyond this tiny range. And, even within this range, depending on the culture or language a human is taught, they will divide up (assemble) the spectrum differently than someone from another culture or language background. Therefore English speakers see blue and green, and Japanese speakers see ‘aoi’, for the same range.
The various colors a person sees depend on what they were conditioned and taught to see. The same is true for sound. There are an infinite number of sound frequencies. Humans are only able to hear a fraction of those frequencies. And, within that tiny range they can hear, they hear differently depending on their conditioning and language. Every culture or language assembles the frequencies into different groups of perception.
The Toltecs knew that this was not limited to what a person hears or sees, but in fact applies to all of reality. Within the totality of all that exists, human beings are able to perceive only a small fraction, and within that small fraction each person will perceive the same reality differently depending on their conditioning, whether that conditioning be cultural, education, language, family values and so on.
In the next chapter I will be talking about how this knowledge can be used to create the life you desire.

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Cool Kris.
You always have tons of structure.
My perception of what happens is usually very different than my conditioning. Meanwhile I ask myself if I see what happens in the totally of what is. How can I know the answer to this?
Will tweet this when I get home.
Sarah
Hi Sarah,
Thank you for comments. Let me ask you this, if a childhood wounding (conditioning), causes you to believe that people will take away or limit your dreams, could this influence your perception about how safe it is to enter into a close, intimate relationship with them?
But you are correct, it is difficult to know that answer to what exists in the totality of what is when you don’t even know that you are only seeing part of it. Most people are content that what they perceive is real, because their reality is formed by their perception.
Thanks for tweeting!
Kris
Sure it can Kris. I have done it. I was in an intimate relationship with someone who told me it wasn’t authentic to have an internship in tv. Because what the person wanted and got stuck was in wanting a daycare. Everybody got over the daycare except someone who wanted to have me in a burka not dealing with anyone except him. That was beautiful to see. I truly got impressed with you and kalyn who actually were nice to me about it.
Sarah
Excellent article Kris! Thank you!
I have just joined your site after recieving one of your newsletters on a similar topic. Perception for me is an ongoing piece of work, with so many levels. It’s fascinating as you mention, how each of us percieve things so differently and yet we still manage to hold together an agreed consensual reality to live in.
I read somewhere about the biology of ‘seeing’ once, and how we never see anything directly, but instead the light waves enter our eyes and are filtered / reflected first through a part of the brain that holds all our experiences and associations we have with the object / scene we are looking at.
We rarely ever see anything that is not first reflected / filtered / coloured through our previous experiences. I guess looking at something without attaching a description is what the Buddhists would call ‘direct perception of emptiness’. In that what we are ‘seeing’ is empty of description and associations.
I used to have experiences when i was a child, when i would sit on the grass and look at my dads car. As a child i didnt know much about cars, so i didnt know about all the different models and makes etc. To me it was an object that had so many associations for me: it was my dads pride and joy, it took us places, me and my little sister would play and argue in the back seets, i saw a lot of the countryside from the passanger window when we travelled on holidays etc. But sometimes i would be able to look at it and not describe it, and it would shift, and i would not recognise what was in front of me anymore, it was not my ‘dads’ car, but a large object i didnt recognise, free of description. Soon after it would become the familiar object i ‘knew’. Looking at perception reminded me of these experiences.
I wish you well with your site, and look forward to reading more of your articles.
Blessings,
Gabriel
http://www.thelivingsacred.co.uk
Thank you for sharing your insights Gabriel. It is amazing isn’t it that even from a physiological perspective, we don’t see anything directly and that it is all filtered through the mind’s inventory. The ramifications of this are profound.
I look forward to hearing more from you.
Kristopher
Thanks Sarah. What would happen if you were able to change your perception of people taking your dreams away? Would it change your experience? You are touching upon the next step, which I will be writing about. When you change your perception, you not only change your experience, but you change what experience you manifest. Then, what your conditioning tells you will happen (intimate relationships always take my dreams away), will no longer be a self fulfilling prophecy.
Kris
Thanks Kris. Looking forward to reading it and applying it. It was surprising to me having that experience around christmas. I knew my pattern of not sharing my deepest dreams and so I did. I was glad about it. I always wanted to do broadcast as you know since Honolulu. I didn’t expect it. I was happy about my achievement. Well it is what it is. I’m not willing to dig in my past. I’m very glad we are over. We should have been over long time ago since last year. Its amazing how all the magic about someone can go away. That is the perception. I see the words and the posts always the same stuff but then no actions. It is a pattern I never saw blinded by love. I wish the person all the best. But not with me. I wish to meet someone with strong will. Not just beautiful words. Its very disappointing but you know Kris changing perception it was very good to me to see what I wanted to change. The trust doubt. The not doing what was told. The being lazy in life. Those things I was too. And I will not anymore. Maybe people have different velocities in life. Some take the fast lane one others the slow one. I like to move fast so I choose the fast lane to transformation. I will not be present in his wedding but I’m sure she will be a sweet woman. Quiet with not much temper. Or as they say in spain not very spicy. Gotta find someone who likes spicy food!
Kris I’m focusing on my professional life. How can I see all of this differently? You know what I want. Am I grasping at it? I have three weeks to solve my life for this summer. I desire to do it well.
Sending you love and thankful for your life mission!
Sarah
Gabriel I loved your story about the car. That is what I think its called by the toltecs as stopping the world when you see the world as a complete different world free of inventory. I love those moments. To me they happen frequently in nature. I remember in waimanalo hawai’I it used to be frequent. The sticks on the sand were animals. The sea was like a blanket. The clouds were alive. I love that beach. I had wonderful moments without inventory there and I felt so free. Some of those moments are still here. I close my eyes and I see them. But you know we can always do it again. We just need to be really open and allowing.
Have a nice day!
Sarah
Hi everyone,
I love the article and I love the discussion!
You know Kris I am finding this to be so true the more I look at myself. I see my misperceptions around others when I am in close relationships with them, especially my past mates. I see through these clouded eyes that don’t see anything else. When I distance myself from the person or when the relationship is over, I come out of my “fog” and I am able to see things for how they really are.
I really want to heal the pieces of me that only see life one way – often they cause me to start my mental churning and produce a negative energy within me. I am looking forward to the next installment!
Love and light
Karen
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